As many of you know I lost my mother this past saturday and her loss to me was devastating.Part of the healing process is to reach out...but my family is somewhat lukewarm or downright cold and so many of moms friends did nothing to show respect for her loss that I truly wonder if people understand the meaning of loss anymore-here was this sweet dear woman who refused to cry or admit she was in pain when just touching her caused a wave of agony to wash over her face.We were never very close emotionally because she wasn't raised that way and wasn't there much as I was growing up due to events that she could not control...but her final days were agonizing and with her loss came emotions within me that have been so difficult to deal with alone.But the one thing that has happened is that I admire my mother now...I so cherish the strength I saw in her at the end and regret her not having any grandchildren because she would have made an excellent grandmother:) Within the rosity community over the past several months there have been many members who have either experienced loss like my own or who have themselves been lost to the community...after waking up numb this morning and all day trying to find something worthwhile to do within the community,this idea emerged and I wanted to share it to see what you think.To some it may be depressing so its not an official contest yet and may not be...what I want is to see what kind of a response the idea gets and if merchants would support the idea.In a huge community like rosity you will experience many losses every year and by being community oriented,there should be a special event held annually for those we've lost.I had this idea months ago when Tom42 lost his beloved father but I am now ashamed to say I didn't post it...I allowed a few people to tell me he might think it morbid but am now doing this because of my loss and the fact that so many who I thought cared about my mother seemed so apethetic at her loss.People from around the world honored my mothers memory...people I'll never get to meet but who proved to be more family and friend to me and my mother than those near to us.If the same is true of others,then why not at least throw the idea out there?? In any case my friends,I wish to say thanks to each and every one of you for your support in this as I am only now beginning to heal and I have so much healing left to do on my own...but most of the pain I feel within myself is diminishing and newfound emotions of admiration for my mother are taking its place-she deserved so much more from life and only with her loss am I discovering what I truly lost in her-she was so strong at the end,I think you'd admire her as well:)

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