Yes, after working with it a bit I realized that the window is 3X further from the figure then the figure is from the door. So the shadows may be realistically right, but they just don't look right. I've had it rendering since last night, this may be an 18 hour render. I'll post it once done.

Swamping the spot with a distance light wont work in this set up, I removed the roof for a better HDRI effect. But I will agree, if you are having a perplexing lighting problem change your light type. I wasn't getting the effect I wanted from the over head shaped lights I had in the florescent fixture models, so I changed it to a spot and used the barn doors to give the light the right shape; long/thin. Worked like a charm. 

Seems I learn a little bit from almost every render I do.