Quote - i have tried thru the file menu but all the dialed settings i made ot the mesh or any customization goes down the tube when i import...the only way i keep my settings if i i import as an obj....

how do you keep your mesh as is from poser to carrara?

Are the dial settings there in Carrara or are they set to 0?
If it's the former, then do you save with external binary morphs enabled in Poser? Switch that off and try again.