OH.. vince3 - thanks for clarifying... I am DYSLEXIC and do get things backwards, SORRY! You have some VERY good points - suggestions on how to follow threads and not get notices... I think -?- there is somewhere in our settings we can actually choose not to get notices?? I am still finding my way around the new things... I "found" my site mail only when I had a message and I also "lost" and then found the new log in link... so it's a process... 

Now I am going to go back and re-read your suggestions and see if I can change the way I use the site to both not get spam and really interact with the forums! :)

Lyne

PS I never ever open spam! :)

Life Requires Assembly and we all know how THAT goes!