Sunday morning at home, December 4th, 2011 one of my mother's brain tumours ruptured resulting in her passing on Wednesday December 7th, 2011 at 4:45pm.
By far the saddest day of my life.
While in hospital on Monday December 5th we witnessed a miraculous event. She had been mostly in a coma but on occassion would gain some consciousness. At one time my Dad (80 years old) was holding my Mom's right hand, telling her how much he loves her. Dad could feel her pulling her hand away. So he let go. My Mom then pointed at her EYE, then HEART and then pointed at Dad to communicate via hand signals "I love you"...
My two aunts were present (Mom's sisters). Mom repeated the hand gestures with them. I was absent at the time. When I arrived my Aunt's asked me to go near my Mom and tell her how much I loved her. She then did the same hand signals to me. It was perhaps the most emotional experience I have ever had. Needless to say I broke down and wept like a baby.
I promptly phoned my brother and he was very deeply touched.
The medical staff were amazed.
Sadly less then an half hour later Mom's body shock violently and her sweet face was distorted and visibly in great pain. The medical staff administered her two injections, one for pain and the other for the seizure. Sadly she remained unconscious and heavily sedated. I was very disappointed my Mother was unable to share this magical moment with my kid brother when he arrived at the palative care center...
On Wednesday another miracle happened. My Dad, my brother Rick, Aunts (Mom's sisters) Theresa, Marie, Susie, Noreen, and cousin Barb where visiting Mom. I had left the hospital to move my car into the hospital parking lot as some space was now available. Dad hollered at me "come here" as I re-entered the room. Mom's eyes were now opened (they had been closed for near two days) and everyone had given her a kiss. I sat close and kissed her and told her how much I loved her as I stroked her hair. Within a minute or two as I held her sweet head, she breathed her last breath.
Everyone said she was waiting to see me before she passed on.
I often called her my Christmas Angel as Christmas Eve is her birthday.
I am grief stricken beyond belief. Damn I hate cancer... she has been fighting cancer (occular melanoma) since 2005 resulting in the removal of an eye.
I love you always Mom, my very Special Christmas Angel...
Dec 12, 2011 3:21:35 amby jif3d Homepage »
I don't know what I can say to ease your loss Ken, only that 'a beautiful soul is never forgotten', every family has to face these situation on day - unfortunately.
I'm glad you got to say goodbye to her - please don't worry, one day you will all meet up again, my thoughts are with you and your family.
Kind regards Jeff
Apr 10, 2012 11:19:29 amby bmac62 Homepage »
Hi Ken. I somehow missed this back in December. This is a lovely piece of work on your part. My condolences to you my friend. I lost my 61 year old wife in Feb 2007 and my 99 year old dad in September of that same year...these are tough times in one's life but also a transition as normal as the sun coming up and going back down. You have wonderful memories of your mom...and hopefully you will meet again. Hope is a blessing and great comfort.
Jan 14, 2013 3:10:30 pmby Pewter7 Homepage »
Well, you just broke my heart too, and made me cry, but it's a good thing ... I am so sorry to learn of this heartwrenching experience and your great loss. My Father went home to be with the Lord Jesus in October 2011, and it is still hard ... we both used to enjoy reading adventure novels and would trade back and forth. Since he has been gone, I just can't get into a book anymore ... anyway, thank you so much for sharing your heart with us and for the lovely picture of your mother, she looks to be a wonderful person. The poem you wrote is very touching and beautiful too.
Dec 2, 2013 9:48:10 amby stnaper Homepage »
Very nice looking lady your mom was, and I'm sure you were proud of her, and she will always be in your heart I'm sure, because I lost my mom 18 years ago, and it seems like yesterday, I think about here everyday, I miss her so much. I'm sorry for your loss Ken, take care.